RELATIONSHIPS ARE WORK. How much work is ok?

So I waited a long long time to post but I am brewing a master piece blog... ; )


Topics for coming soon blogs:

1. Relationships are work. Always! But how much work is the right amount of work? How do we know when to try harder or just give up?

2. To what extend do "friends" influence each other when it comes to monogamous relationship...& to what extent should one follow that advice?

3. How to deal with personal insecurities in relationships so that you benefit and make the best of the "con's"....

4. Can ex's be friends? Why or Why Not?

5. When is it the "right" time for a married couple to start a family...kids wise. How to cope with the family pressures.



Post ideas or questions you might have about these topics, hopefully my next three post will either answer the question or trigger a positive idea for a solution to a conflict.

If you have any annoymous stories or experiences that relate to the topics feel free to post them. I know a lot of us have been through similar situations and hearing other peoples stories can be light shedding : )


Love, Peace, & Chicken Grease.

Z. Bean

Txting & Technology Effects on RELATIONSHIPS (all kinds)

I've noticed more and more that the entire world is texting. Including my grams! No not really but if she could see tiny letters she probably would text. In my line of work I've noticed that if I txt my Executive Director I will get a response faster then if I was to call or email her! Wth! I know she is always busy so I understand but should personal relationships relay on txt conversations? here is what the others have to say:

So many books have been written about the communication difficulties between men and women, and I believe email, text messaging and IMing make these problems even worse.

Over and over again on-line I hear women saying things like "I had a date with this guy, and then he sent me this text message, what do you think it means?" Or they tell you a long convoluted story about their crush, about emails they've sent back and forth between them and text message they got, and they want help interpreting what the other person meant. Or they send the guy an email joking around about something and suddenly the guy turns cold on them, and they want to know what they said wrong.

It seems to me that people rely too much on email and texting in the beginning of a relationship. I've been with my husband for thirteen years, and we still end up calling each other all the time because one of us misunderstood something in an email, thinking the other person was mad when they were just joking, or misunderstanding the entire tone of a message.

It is so difficult to communicate when you can't see the other person's face or hear their tone of voice. Sarcasm, irony, and satire don't translate well into the written word for one thing. When it comes to texting, many people try to cram as much meaning into as few words as possible, like a telegram. This leads to much confusion as well.

My advice for people who have started dating or are interested in someone is to stick to the phone and face to face meetings as much as possible, and to not stake as much importance in the meaning behind emails and text messages.

I also think that if you're confused about something a person wrote, it's best to just be honest and ask them what it means. by Helen Richardson

http://www.helium.com/items/204504-how-email-and-texting-affects-relationships


& if you get really bored you can read "Social Effects of Text Messaging" a study done in 2004! very interesting! http://www.160characters.org/documents/SocialEffectsOfTextMessaging.pdf

MUCHO AMOR ~z.Lo

my baby drewy

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My new "nerdy" habit.

I tried blogging once before but it didn't stick. I've been wasting my time on FB & Myspace or as my dad would call it "Myface". So i've decided stay in touch with my close friends & family via blog. You can comment, suggest, rant on, or even get mad at me directly. LOL gosh i love technology. Anyway, hope your all doing well all around. Let the fun begin!

mucho amor
~z.Lo